Dating presents a quagmire of dos and don’ts that would have anyone’s head spinning. So what are the techniques from the experts that will have him falling in love with you in no time?
If you had one selfish wish, would it be to make any man fall in love with you? You don’t need any unearthly magic to get him under your spell. From fine dining to a simple smile, we show you how to win over your date.
LOL
Seems obvious, but in the thick of date nervousness a laugh is often left by the wayside. Laugh at your date’s jokes (even if they are appalling) and be the first to laugh in a group, it’s an attractive quality. Cute private jokes create a bond between you, taking away the stress of the first date and making you seem like long-time lovers.
Close contact
There’s something to be said for lingering gazes in communicating you’re into someone. Let your eyes stay glued to his a little longer than necessary – especially during silences. Induce the ‘fight or flight’ chemicals that race through our veins when we feel infatuation. Drag your eyes away slowly and reluctantly to let your date know you find them fascinating.
Dress to impress
Even for a casual liaison, dressing like an unmade bed is not attractive. Make sure your outfit is clean and co-ordinated. Dress alluringly but don’t look cheap, he’ll be mentally undressing you anyway! There’s nothing wrong with making the most of your assets coyly.
Undressing with your eyes
Take a peek (you know you want to). Sounds cheesy but as you and your date are chatting let your eyes gaze over their face, taking small side trips south to the neck, shoulders and torso. But be wary: if your eyes travel too far south for too long you may be in trouble!
Smile like you mean it
A simple action that reaps great rewards is just to smile. The most effective form of body language, a soft smile is saucy and seductive. A quick smile can come across as contrived, so just let a slow one float over your face.
Questionable
Asking questions is always advised to get your date talking, but ladies be wary about asking a man too much about his feelings straight up. Wait till things are on stable ground or you might find he goes running into the night as you’re too touchy feely.
Fine dining
If you’re planning to pick up the bill and want to pick somewhere flashy, make sure the atmosphere of the restaurant fits with the image you’re trying to project. Elegant, upbeat, cool or arty are winners, while sterile, quiet or pretentious are not general recommendations. Atmosphere is important because your date will be inclined to transfer their feelings about the room to you.
Butterfly effect
When planning a date, find out what pushes your date’s buttons. On a date we’re looking to provoke a physical response. This doesn’t mean you have to go sky-diving, a scary movie will suffice, we just want to get some butterflies flapping their wings. Dinner or a drink to debrief your experience after is a must.
Mirror mirror
Shared convictions bond two people strongly, so if you agree with what he is saying show it deeply. Mirroring your date’s responses with emotions – shock, humour, compassion – is important for showing you read and understand the situation on common ground.
